How to become truly STRONG
Do you find yourself struggling to put the cookie down, even though YOU KNOW it will only lead to one more day with love handles? Even though you made a New Years Resolution to lose 20 lbs, you just can’t help but order the 10-piece Buffalo Wings and the extra pint of beer when you go out with your friends over the house salad?
***WARNING: LONG-ISH POST AHEAD. BRING COFFEE***
Do you have so little will power you just can’t stick to a diet? Well, yeah. Will power is a limit commodity and we use it constantly all day every day. Trying to use 100 pennies to pay for 3 meals a day, plus gas, plus a movie, plus your power bill will always come up short. Will power is the same way.
Does that mean you’re doomed to forever be fat, sick, and unhappy? Nope, not at all.
In our last post we talked about the top 3 things keeping you in a FAT identity. The first was discovering the identity that you believe and aligns with the life you want.
Today we will address what you do AFTER you discover that new identity: strengthening that identity so it sticks. When an identity sticks you no longer have to use will power to overcome eating that extra slice of pizza. It no longer becomes something you even do. The same way as someone who doesn’t use drugs looks as smoking meth, you will look at having an entire cheese cake to yourself: not who you are so you don’t doentity, you need to prove to yourself this new identity is YOUR identity and not a temporary set of actions to accomplish a temporary goal (like you have done your entire life until now). You prove to yourself this identity is you through a series of small wins that build upon each other until they equal a large action you associate with your identity.
These small wins need to be so small that it’s impossible for you to not do them successfully. If they’re not ridiculously easy you’ll likely put them off and revert to your old, comfortable (yet unsatisfying) identity and habits.
So, where do you even start? Creating a series of small wins is an overwhelming task by itself! The first step is look at your identity and decide something they will either always (frequently works too) do or always avoid doing. it.
To strengthen your new id
We will use my amazing wife as an example to help illustrate this step.
Her identity is a confident pioneer who empowers others. Something her identity would frequently do in her household environment is create games for her kids to play on their own that they enjoy. That is a HUGE thing to take on. Even just hearing that made me feel overwhelmed! Create games? That the kids will do on their own (our kids always want us to play with them as opposed to playing solo)? AND they will enjoy those games?! Insanity!
However, for my wife this is a reality for her identity. A confident pioneer charts new territory. They’re creative. They take risks and do things others feel scared to do. We now have our large win on the horizon! The next step is to figure out something that is needed to make this large win possible. I see three big tasks that need to happen. First is she will need to figure out what games the kids already enjoy playing (by their selves or with others). Second, she will need to find out what activities the kids do by themselves. Lastly, she will need to figure out how frequently she would need to create a new game to keep up with a child’s ever waiving attention span.
If we take the first part and break it down even further into a manageable task my wife can then have a small win. What would be a manageable task she can do frequently that will lead towards her figuring out which games the kids already enjoy playing? (I know some of you are thinking this is a small enough task already, and you’re wrong!).
She needs to write down each day what games the kids played that day and if they enjoyed them. She will keep this up for 10 days to find a pattern. That’s it: write down each day what games the kids enjoyed playing that day for 10 days.
I know this whole thing sounds like a TON of work. It really can feel that way. I’d be lying if I said it was easy or that it’s not the reason most people fail to make lasting changes.
That’s one reason we created Ripple: Lifestyle by Design. Our coaches can guide you along this path and take the weight of this process off your shoulders. All you have to focus on is one or two steps at a time and our coaches manage the rest.
If you want to make truly meaningful change in your life, schedule your FREE Intro call today!
To Your Success,
Hidden Gem CrossFit